The Superwoman syndrome is not just the title for a select few women executives.
Most women today find themselves juggling careers and families as well as a countless number of other activities. So how are we to make time for a healthy love life? We all crave romance. How can we initiate romance as a regular part of our daily rituals?

First we must not let our lives and schedules put intimacy, romance and lovemaking time on the back burner. Are we not here to love and enjoy life? My friend who happens to be 85 years old shared that she and her husband made love almost everyday well into their late seventies. "When did you stop making love?" I asked. She replied, "When he passed away, a few years ago." "Grandma, what's the secret? How do you stay interested with each other for such a long time? Didn't you get bored with each other?" "Oh no dear, sex just got better as we got older.

We knew each other so well. The love and trust allowed us to relax into our lovemaking. I do have one secret to share with you. To keep the desire for each other alive you must, use it or lose it. We never let anything take the place of our lovemaking time. We always went to bed early and we never drank more than a glass of sherry or one cocktail at a party. We would much rather retire from a party early because we knew what lay ahead for us. I don't understand all this dirty sex on television, in the movies, all the cheap thrills and kink. People are so mixed up. If we just kept love in the bedroom there would be no need for us to deviate to kinky sex?"

I think Grandma is right. If we just took care of our deep-seeded problems and learned to love ourselves as well as those around us we would have much more meaningful and much deeper connections. Now Grandma had a very loving and supportive and healthy upbringing in the old- world. Not all of us have been so lucky. To keep the sex alive we must build our sexuality by viewing ourselves as sexy. The first and primary step to take toward feeling sexy is to keep yourself up.

Make the extra effort to dress in attractive clothes, wear a pretty teddy set at bedtime. For goodness sake get out of your baggies and sweat shirt! Hint at and tease your husband or lover, be suggestive of your frisky intentions. To even get to that point you're going to have to do the inner work on how you feel about yourself and sexuality. Sex is mostly in the mind so take the necessary steps to work on obstructions that may be inhibiting your sexuality and appetites.

Make sex a priority and don't forget to be spontaneous. Grab him in the garage, lock the door and bend over the workbench! Another suggestion my friend had was to cut back on all the "should dos" that you have accepted into your life.
What is more important? Let's look at reality. You will be doing your family a favor if you and your mate are content, sexually satisfied and in love. The hurry-scurry of trying to be super mom, have the super kid that goes to every chess club, sports activity etc. is over taxing to the entire family.

Our homes must be a haven for the family to come together and connect. We must put love and romance higher on our lists! Love and the patterns we set are emulated by our offspring and peers so put love and making love back into the picture. That goal of the brand new vehicle should be on the bottom of the list. Lets get it straight!

And Like Grandma says, to have good sex you must keep Love in the bedroom. Never go to bed angry. She knows what she is talking about. She and her husband made love almost every night! It became habit forming and the closeness they maintained helped them to have a very fullfilling and blissful life together.