Ask Karinna:  How Can I Reconnect?

 

Dear Karinna,

 

Almost two years ago I met a woman online who was just about to get a divorce. At the time I wanted to give her room more than anything. However, soon after "feelings" appeared and pretty soon she told me that she was afraid she was about to fall in love. We chatted for hours every day, but then one of us moved and we weren't able to contact each other as much.  The only way we had to get in touch was when she was at work-- which I felt was not convenient at all because she was always busy. When she became free we had an amazingly deep talk and I could feel her emotions, but most of the time the interaction was cold because of her work.

 

But now, we finally found a way to meet. I want to recreate and rebuild the first emotions we had when we first chatted on the phone and I am wondering how I can do that. Do you have any advice?

 

-- N.

 

Dear N.,

 

It always seems to be easier to bear our soul to a stranger, to let them know our deepest thoughts and feelings. At the beginning of a relationship we have absolutely nothing to lose by doing this. And we can start to feel that "in love" feeling because we are actually being genuine, telling our truth and are able to receive another's. And there is also something about not quite being available that also creates the urgency and the excitement to reveal ourselves.

 

Attempting to have meaningful discussions while she is at the office is just another way of keeping that "out of reach" tension going which is exciting but always leaves you hanging.

 

I am glad you are finally meeting. If you feel the chemistry in person meet again and again. Now that your friend is available in full living color you have an opportunity to stay as alive and interested as when you couldn't be with each other.

 

You have to keep vigilance to not let your heart become scared and start to close. You have to keep your communications real and your truth out front and your interest in each other just as strong. Wrestle with the wonder and vulnerability of the reality of each other. If you do, the emotions you share with each other can be even more stimulating, amazing, and satisfying than those in your first conversations.

 

 

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Wishing You Sacred Love,

Karinna Kittles-Karsten

www.SacredLove.com  

 

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