Dear Karinna,

 

After 21 months of separation, my divorce is scheduled to be final here very soon.  I left the marriage because my soon to be ex was unfaithful repeatedly.  Now I'd love to have a man in my life but not just any man-- my perfect life partner.  I'm curious-- what are your thoughts in that regard?  I want a man that really gets me and one that I, in return, really get.  I may be a fool, but I still believe in the fairy tale. 

 

-- K.

 

 

Dear K,

 

I am very happy that you decided to terminate a relationship with a person who did not honor and respect you with his behavior of on-going infidelity. However, I bless him-- not only because he faces a challenging climb to a life of integrity (if he is even willing to make it)-- but most importantly because by you knowing the truth he has set you free!

 

Now it is your time to discover what great love can actually look like as well as be able to cultivate the love you are meant to experience. The most significant advice I can offer you right now is that you have to be willing to do two things-- they are to develop both: 1) the lover and 2) the love investigator in you.

 

Great Love Relationships have these four compatible areas: Emotional, Mental, Physical, and Spiritual. Check in with yourself to recognize which of these areas were present in your last relationship and which weren't. The areas that were not compatible are a good indicator of where you will need to start in your development as a lover.

 

The Lover In You needs to be prepared for having great love. If you aren't, great love potential can show up in your life and then, based on your lack of skill and ability to give and receive love and share intimacy well, over time the relationship will fizzle.

 

Ask Yourself:

1- What did you learn from this last relationship?

 

Write these discoveries down. Utilize this new found knowing to make this next stage of your love life a trusting, nurturing, loving, and passionate one.

 

2- Where could you become stronger as a lover emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually?

 

Give yourself a plan to develop each and every one of these areas so that you feel rooted in confidence about sharing each area of yourself with a worthy partner before jumping into a new relationship.

 

Become a Love Investigator utilizing this new strength and confidence as a lover to--

Date Smart:

When you go out on a date utilize the wisdom you have developed to assess if you can share compatibility with a person in all four areas. Tune into your intuition and see if you connect emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually. Emotionally-- be aware if you feel at ease to share your feelings. Do you feel openness in your date's heart? Physically-- be aware of the chemistry between you or notice if there is any at all. You will want it to have a fulfilling, long-term, intimate relationship. Mentally-- notice if you feel stimulated and interested in this partner, or do you feel bored and tired? Spiritually-- notice if you feel openness in the forehead area of your date and a "kindredness" with each other.

 

Once you get a reading with your intuition on these four areas then ask deeper questions that will give you more important data on them, if this is possible. Ask about what they are interested in mentally and spiritually.  Notice how they express and listen to emotions.  And physically-- what kind of relationship are they looking for?  This is very important because from what you have gone through you want to know that someone wants the same kind of healthy physical relationship that you do.  

 

By becoming an astute love investigator you will save precious energy and time to quickly get to a fundamentally great core relationship for you!

 

Keep sending me your questions to Ask Karinna.  I love hearing from you!

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